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Being oneself and being “different” is an idea that gained space in general culture. Accusing someone of being stereotyped it’s considered offensive, for that means trivializing his or her personality, and basically it’s calling such person stupid. Stereotypes are always corny.

However, who dismisses easy talks and ventures into the road of “being oneself”, will soon discover that it’s not as simple as words make believe. This question is the core of most of individual problems, of suffering and social misfits. Comprehending it in a proper way is the first step to face the challenge in a constructive way that moves toward a solution.

“Being oneself” means differentiating oneself from the environment and culture in which one has born, grew and live. It means “becoming oneself”, expressing the unique characteristics that make a person be an individuality and not a clone of a given model. This differentiation occurs in many aspects: in the way of thinking, feeling, understanding, proceeding, choosing, and in the priorities and behavior. It’s easy to realize that it’s something complex that doesn’t happen quickly. This process is technically called Individuation. Read the rest of this entry »

“I love you and I don’t want to ever separate from you,” the lovers said to each other.

Years later, a steal hoop clenches the actions of both, a series of “can’t” is part of their daily life. They still love each other, but remained together thanks to many concessions and “mid-terms”. More years go by and the two of them are still together, their souls as gray as their hair. Their life is monotonous, the range of options and allowed experiences, with time, had been more and more restricted. They are tired, their thoughts and emotions partially numbed. They see only a small slice of life. They still say they love each other, as much as it is possible for a soul in restricted liberty.

The relation of such lovers is built on a dogma, not questionable by principle: the Read the rest of this entry »

Two pigeons beak the grain on the soil when one of them ruffles the feathers of its neck, utters a hu-hu hu-hu hu-hu and walks in circle around the second dove that continues looking at the floor apparently indifferent. In fact, its behavior is instinctive and finalized, the second dove will go around with a not interested air looking for food, while the first one goes after and around it. Its function is to “test the other dove”, not anyone can give continuity to the species.
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