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The Love and many loves
September 5th, 2010 | 
Author: Adriana Tanese-Nogueira
In our idealized cultural romanticism, we still refer to hypostatized concepts. Hypostases is a philosophical notion that originally means “substance”, but which with the evolution of human thinking gained the connotation of an abstraction considered as real, a fiction.
The quite spread idea of Love is, for example, an hypostases. A concept around which there’s a lot of respect and veneration, but it’s little used for being “so profound” that it remains like a reliquary incapable of being applied or adapted to reality. For the latter is another thing, much different and inferior to Love. … Read on
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False New Men (Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing)
Adriana Tanese-Nogueira
Some men seem to display a psychological advance when they value, apparently in an unselfish way, women and the feminine in general. This would be a really step ahead since the appreciation of the feminine, in the patriarchal horizon, happens as long as from women a man can obtain something: her body, her work, her generous and meek availability.
There are men who, conversely to tradition, appear to highlight women’s power and to stimulate them to guard it and exercise it. Their pro-women propaganda is explicit and public. That’s a pleasant surprise mainly when it happens in strictly masculine environments where, although women have a place, it’s not the active and listened to one. One example is the obstetrician world, eminently masculine, in the mentality and in the approach to the pregnant woman. …
The Fury of the Ego
Adriana Tanese-Nogueira
The Ego in his (I’ll intentionally use the masculine to refer to the Ego for it is a masculine dimension of the psyche) primitive state, that is with no consciousness, is an a-moral powerful force, whose goal is to strengthen himself (that is, a psychological complex that tends to maintain himself steady and continue in time). Anything that adds to his power is considered a value. Having a structured and resistant Ego is a psychological need on what depends the mental health of the person and their success in life. However and unfortunately, what happens the most is the excess of structure and stiffness, an exaggeration of Ego impermeability. Thus his negative acting out, and the stress on self empowerment.
Naivety
Adriana Tanese-Nogueira
Naivety is a natural state of the child’s soul, a spontaneous condition of the beginning of life. Everything is new and has to be explored, because of ingenuity we venture, trust, test and learn. And here lays the final goal: learning.
With the years passing by, naivety should give place to wisdom, which consists in some bitter notes and some sweet ones. It happens though that when ingenuity slips away, it is substituted by sorrow before life and the world, leading to disbelief and misanthropy. This is one of the reasons for people to cling to naivety as a way to preserve their childhood and optimism toward life. In doing so, however, they don’t save the “inner child”, rather they remain childish.
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Conscience
Adriana Tanese-Nogueira
Conscience is discernment. Having conscience is leaving the blurry vision, the confuse understanding and the misty feeling. Having conscience is seeing with clarity through mind’s eyes, disentangling, dividing and uniting. It’s getting oriented and finding the way.
Conscience in thinking
Mentalities are everything in life, they demarcate the horizon, what one thinks one can do or must do. The decision taken depend on one’s Read the rest of this entry »
The “Foolishness” We Dream
Adriana Tanese-Nogueira
Imagine that an unknown individual comes to talk to you. Weird sounds are produces by his moths and you get to think what is it is that he is trying to say to you. The individual is dressed in a strange way you have never seen before. You are not feeling like making new contacts now and this one demands too much effort. You have other things in your mind and are not willing to think more than what you already need. And you start to feel impatient.
You look at the stranger and wonder how to get rid of him, when suddenly you believe you have recognized one or two words. You have the impression that some of his sounds resemble your daily vocabulary, banal words actually, of no great importance. You feel relieved, already preparing yourself to move one and deal with what really matters. You conclude is that the individual is saying foolishness, irrelevant talk. Finally, you can go to take care of your business.
It will never cross you mind that the unknown individual is communicating you an important discovery that will improve your life, or is trying to warn you that you child does drugs, or that you are merging into deep depression and… Continue here
The Act of Getting Conscious
Adriana Tanese-Nogueira
You have been living in this house called Ego for a long time. It has several rooms and you have your favorite spaces. Some corners of the house are constantly illuminated, because you spend much time there and know each detail of them. There are rooms where you only go sometimes, they mean sporadic experiences depending on opportunity and company. Each one of these rooms, with their furniture, sounds, colors and objects, tell about you. And you are accustomed to them.
One day, walking through the house, you notice a closed door. From under it you only see darkness. The door was unknown to you, and Read the rest of this entry »
The Limit of Life
Life is limited. Many people don’t realize that, they mentally know it as an abstract truth, with no internal resonance. The interior “click” that occurs when the thought meets the correspondent feeling didn’t happen to them. True, life gets to an end and, sooner or later, everybody wakes up to that.
Limits of time are unmercifully useful. They force us to choose among the many ways we have to spend our time which one makes sense to us, which is better. And, because we are also limited selves, “better” means that we need to receive, not always give, in order to move on, and receiving something that conveys us strength and opportunities. The conscience of the time limitation, if smartly used, lead us to define what we want.
The key questions are: how to use this time? With whom to use this time? For what to use this time? These are precious questions, for in the lasts days of our time on Earth they could return and provoke a lot of pain or saint joy. Read the rest of this entry »
The Comfort of Stereotypes
Who hasn’t ever wished not having certain feelings and thoughts? Who hasn’t desired to eliminate questions and doubts that emerge in our mind without being asked for?
There are moments in which we would give anything to say, yes, we like to do this thing or go to that place, or being that person… It would be so simple. And, instead, it’s only with a great effort that we can repress threatening thoughts and feelings and concentrate all our will on what we believe others do or are in such easiness.
Just a single speck of difference may spoil everything, a mere oblique look, a smile that didn’t come out right, an uncontrolled gesture and the mask falls Read the rest of this entry »
