There aren’t many, but there are people who lie in therapy.  Lie to whom? To themselves, for sure. But who exactly does the therapist represent that it is “necessary” lying to him?

By the best of the hypothesis, the therapist stands for the patient’s consciousness. By the worst, for a mother (or a father). Because the parental figure has always been a child’s reference for good behavior, revealing the truth to a parent is like admitting something and becoming aware of what one has done. Therefore, the therapist is a mother of father’s vicarious.

There are therapist who in fact set themselves as big moms and dads of their patients giving them directions about what is “right” and “wrong”. Thus, these professionals occupy a place already prepared, only Read the rest of this entry »

When one is a child, one lives immersed in the family ambience. For the ones who were lucky, this ambience emanates warm sympathy. Although there might be moments of tension, fights and misunderstanding, family fulfills the basic need of being part of a community; it’s a small group in which one can feel “at home”, where one is known and knows.

Each family has its own characteristic style, which is like a mark of its existence, a style created by its members but certainly mostly imprinted by the parents. Memories of fun time and experiences make the affective richness that nourishes a group from within, and grants it its survival, in spite of the harsh rocks against which relationships are thrown when they fell in the sea of incomprehension.
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If your baby doesn’t sleep at night you can check these possible issues:

- Is she breastfed or is getting a bottle? If she takes a bottle, she might be missing your breast, which means you as a whole.
- Does she have stomach ache? Try soft massages like Shantala and the Butterfly Touch. You must learn first how do to it and Read the rest of this entry »

Mary Zwart – Midwife

Babies are hardly ever born pink. Why?

The first hour after birth we now think of as very important to the bounding of mother and child.

So ideally the mother takes her baby after the shoulders are born, to her breast and no one should say anything. She worked for it very hard so it is up to her to enjoy this moment to the top. In the first hour the baby should not be removed of the breast. The placenta can be born like this and the cutting can be done anytime even some days after (Lotus birth). Read the rest of this entry »

“Hi,

I’ve been instructed by my gynecologist to take Dostinex to diminish my milk production, because my breast were becoming hard and I was feeling pain. I was taking it out manually but it wasn’t enough.
I took two pills, one each day, but now I fear my milk could stop. Is there any risk?

Marcela” Read the rest of this entry »

We always love the right person, although she or he may not be the right person for our life, or for the rest of our life, or even the right person to make blossom the best of us.

We always love the right person, and he or she is always prince charming or the beautiful princess, although he or she may be so only for one hour, one day or one year. The rest of the time together is gained thanks to the revenue generated by that nurturing moment of love.

There’s always an important reason to love a person, and I mean “love” in a wide and general sense. I’m not necessarily talking about the faithful and consistent love, firm and conscious, but about whatever love that can at least resist to some turbulence. The Read the rest of this entry »

“I love you and I don’t want to ever separate from you,” the lovers said to each other.

Years later, a steal hoop clenches the actions of both, a series of “can’t” is part of their daily life. They still love each other, but remained together thanks to many concessions and “mid-terms”. More years go by and the two of them are still together, their souls as gray as their hair. Their life is monotonous, the range of options and allowed experiences, with time, had been more and more restricted. They are tired, their thoughts and emotions partially numbed. They see only a small slice of life. They still say they love each other, as much as it is possible for a soul in restricted liberty.

The relation of such lovers is built on a dogma, not questionable by principle: the Read the rest of this entry »

Generally, a woman is victim of the man who she calls “companion” or “husband”. However, she can be a victim of other people, like employers or parents, friends or neighbors. The “victim” is the person who lives a relationship based on power in which she occupies the weaker position. The unbalance of strengths can be either physical or emotional, financial or sentimental. Usually these aspects go together, although there’s always one that sticks out.

After a certain amount of time, which can go from 1 to 20 years (or more!), she’ll have to get it. She in fact already knew that things weren’t doing fine, and for a quite long time. The question is taking an attitude. She “gets it” when she can’t delude herself anymore saying that “it’s not so bad”, “it’ll change” or “I need to be patient”.

She runs away from awareness because:
1) she foresees that the problem is “enormous”;
2) she believes that’s the only existing reality. Read the rest of this entry »

Have you observed how much crated we are in pre-determined models? There are molds for everything. Choose yours, withdraw it from the grocery shelf, go to the cashier and pay. Now, you have happiness (because of course you buy it).

It’s true that an economical transaction is part of happiness. But if money is necessary, it’s certainly not enough. Besides money one needs some psychological and social conditions. We like to be with certain people and to feel good with them. But it’s not sufficient having them close by for happiness magically pop up and mainly to Read the rest of this entry »